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#60 Going Beyond Zer0: Business as a Restorative Enterprise | Nathan Havey

#60 Going Beyond Zer0: Business as a Restorative Enterprise | Nathan Havey

May 24, 2022

Business is the social institution that that makes the world go ‘round. At one point in time, it was government and monarchies, and another point in time, it was religion. Now, it's businesses. So if we want to change the world, we have to change business.” – Nathan Havey

3D Business: A force for positive change
In the 1970s, Milton Friedman said that the only responsibility of business is to increase profits for its shareholders. Today, conscious capitalism expands the definition of success for businesses to be three-dimensional, to include the environment, a diverse workforce, and more, and to ultimately leave a positive impact on the world.
Nathan Havey believes transforming business is one of the best ways to help all people thrive. To that end, he’s done an impressive job weaving together his passions for film and storytelling alongside his public policy and consultant background to bring us the documentary Beyond Zero
Together, we discuss:
- Nathan's road to creating the documentary and how it illustrates Conscious Capitalism
- How we can bring Conscious Capitalism into business conversations – and who can drive it
- The 6 elements important for stakeholder / conscious capitalism
- And more
With the right mindsets and practices in place, business has the ability to become a restorative enterprise that creates good in the world.

Positive impact is best for business
[5:35] Business people need to understand the consequences their companies have on the environment and on humanity, and they need to try to make sure those are positive consequences. That’s the way we can actually work together to create a world that works for everyone…because it’s the best way for capitalism to operate.”

What's your BHAG? And does it go beyond your shareholders?
[7:09] "...all of the macro life support systems on Earth are in decline. And they're in decline because of industrial activity. And as he read what Hawkins said, he realized that he, as the chief executive of a global industrial company, was part of the Vanguard that was driving the decline of the life support systems on Earth. And so it, it absolutely shocked him to his core.

Business success = helping people be the best version of themselves
[47:52] “Rather than using people in your company for your gain – ‘I'm gonna pay you as little as possible, work you as hard as I can so I get maximum benefit from you’ – is there a way you can help make them the best version of themselves? Can you help them become who they want to be, to help them be who they need to be for their family?
When you do that, counterintuitively, they perform far better, and you actually end up getting better performance.”

Progress, not perfection
[24:32] “That stops a lot of companies from starting this journey – they see all these different places – there's environmentalism, and there's economic justice, and there's animal rights, and welfare, and where do we even begin? If we're going to start to do anything, are we going to immediately get slapped for everything that we're not doing?...
”We can't let the perfect be the enemy of the good, but the best way to do that is by holding up how much farther we still have to go so that it’s all in context.”

What can you do? The smallest gesture may have big payoffs
[14:09] "But what there is for us, each of us, to do is to just do the things that we see to do. And you never know what the other extenuating circumstances are, that when your small gesture of giving a book recommendation might be the thing that changes a piece of the world."
 
About the documentary Beyond Zero:
https://beyondzerofilm.com/
Ray Anderson Spear in the Chest
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7eUMdcgXxJo&t=11s
Interface
https://www.interface.com/US/en-US/homepage
Paul Hawken
https://paulhawken.com/

The 6-Part Stakeholder Score:
https://stakeholderscore.com/
Listen to Nathan’s 10-episode podcast:
10 Things You Should Know About Stakeholder Capitalism
Visit:
https://www.100monthstochange.com/
https://www.consciouscapitalism.org  
Raj Sisodia
http://rajsisodia.com/
Firms of Endearment
http://firmsofendearment.com/
Emmanuel Faber, Former CEO, Danone
https://time.com/6121684/emmanuel-faber-danone-interview/
Leith Sharp
https://eesl.sph.harvard.edu/leith-sharp-program-director-biography
LEED Certification
https://www.usgbc.org/leed
Erin Meezan
https://www.linkedin.com/in/erinmeezan/
Jessica Schneider - Conscious Capitalism Consultant
https://www.linkedin.com/in/inspiringpossibilities/
Milton Friedman
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Milton_Friedman

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#59 How Not Knowing Gets us Unstuck | Jay G. Cone, Ph.D.

#59 How Not Knowing Gets us Unstuck | Jay G. Cone, Ph.D.

May 10, 2022

Do you ever feel overwhelmed and even stuck by situations that feel complex, uncertain and ambiguous?

I certainly do.

My guest today, Jay Cone, tells us that there's a surprising power in not knowing what to do. He believes that if we can boost our immunity to feeling the chaos, we can respond with creativity and compassion rather than paralysis and tribalism.  Does expanding your repertoire and freeing your mind sound useful? Then join us as we talk about bias, quicksand questions, and four disciplines for getting unstuck.

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#58 A Fool’s Choice: Achievement or Evolution with Donna Zajonc

#58 A Fool’s Choice: Achievement or Evolution with Donna Zajonc

April 26, 2022

If we focus on goals alone, without being tethered into this beingness, [it] can activate and trigger us, and we see those goals as our persecutor…‘Was the goal big enough? Did I do it fast enough?’ So the goal-setting can actually become a persecutor. And in our own mind, we feel victim to that.” – Donna Zajonc

 

Are your goals also your persecutor?

Working toward a goal or vision is important - but how often do we pay as much attention to the person that we're being while in that pursuit, as the pursuit itself?

 

It’s easy to get caught up in the goal without placing attention on who we are along the way. However, without tending to ourselves we can feel trapped by our own goals and wonder if we’re living up to the standards we’ve set. Distress and reactive behaviors follow.

 

Donna Zajonc covers this topic in her new book, Who Do You Want to Be on the Way to What You Want.

 

Alongside her partner, David Emerald, they’ve developed a framework for recognizing and responding more intentionally when life throws us a curve ball. We learn to move out of the toxicity of the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT), and how to reorient ourselves with the The Empowerment Dynamic (TED).

 

We’ll discuss her new book, along with 3 powerful practices for you to use to look inward, spur creativity and conquer stress.

 

Tangled up in your emotions? Notice and name

[00:28:21] “When we notice and name something, we are now able to see it and hold it in our hand and go, ‘Oh, look at that.’ We're not as enmeshed into it, so we're not subject to it. It’s really a powerful psychodynamic thing that's going on, that allows us to have it and not be it…when we can do that, our body starts calming down.”

 

Stuck? Tell 3 stories

[00:30:50] “When we're really stuck and attached to a particular point of view, we’re constricted in our bodies, our minds are constricted - and we are totally lost to the creativity of any other possibility. So we literally must broaden our perspective. That's really hard to do when we're stuck in one perspective. The practice of the possibility of telling three stories [helps you realize] there's even more going on here than I realized.”

 

Create space and see what space creates

[00:39:24] “[Leaders often feel they] need to be able to tell people more ideas about how to fix this or be that. And it's actually the opposite - to let go of needing to have the answers and to create a safe space for others to step into their genius, their creator, their sense of who do they want to be. … Let's take a timeout let's breathe, let's calm ourselves, and trust that our wisdom is going to rise if we can calm ourselves.”

 

Resources:

Donna Zajonc donna@theempowermentdynamic.com,

Who do You Want to Be on the Way to What You Want? https://bookshop.org/a/16835/9781733678100

Center for the Empowerment Dynamic:  https://www.theempowermentdynamic.com/

Link to coach training in May 2022:  https://www.theempowermentdynamic.com/coaching-2/

Episode 51 Focus 2022: From Surviving to Thriving with 3 Vital Questions (Replay from February 2020):  https://rise-leaders.com/podcast/

Rise Leaders YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKZAhRU1iLsXYwpvCECVreg

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#57 5 Practices to Ground and Elevate Your Authenticity

#57 5 Practices to Ground and Elevate Your Authenticity

April 12, 2022

 “Imagine if we could all show up in more, if not all, places in life fully ourselves - that we could fully open ourselves to learning, making mistakes, taking feedback, taking risks, and be being fully seen for our humanity and our potential without the fear of embarrassment or retribution.”

Move from socially defined to self-authored

Have you ever felt that internal tug-of-war where you yearn to bring your whole self to a situation - but you hold yourself back? Perhaps you self-impose guidelines for how you “should” speak and act in your organization?

Endeavoring to live with authenticity often causes internal conflict. We suffer when we constantly try to become what (we assume) others expect of us. As a result, we have less energy to innovate, improve and positively impact stakeholders. We end up with a decreased sense of well-being and satisfaction with work and life.

Ultimately, we want to live and lead in a way that exemplifies what’s most important to us.

To help you ground and elevate your authenticity, I share:
-What it means to live and lead with authenticity and be “self-authored”
-The cost incurred when we don’t fully show up as ourselves
-5 practices to help create more authenticity

Image management hogs organizational resources

[03:05] "In an ordinary organization, most people are doing a second job no one is paying them for ... spending time and energy covering up their weaknesses, managing other people's impressions of them, showing themselves to their best advantage, playing politics, hiding their inadequacies, hiding their uncertainties, hiding their limitations.  We regard this as the single biggest loss of resources that organizations suffer every day.”  
– From An Everyone Culture: Becoming a Deliberately Developmental Organization by Harvard Professors Bog Kegan and Lisa Lahey

When we’re inauthentic, we suffer

[04:55] “Jesus said, ‘If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you.’” – From the Gospel of Thomas


The result of authenticity? Vitality

[16:13] “Don’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive and go do that, because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” - Howard Thurman, author, philosopher and theologian".

“An Everyone Culture:  Becoming a Deliberately Developmental Organization”  by Harvard Professors Bob Kegan and Lisa Lahey:  https://bookshop.org/a/16835/9781625278623

Self-Authoring mind: https://www.forbes.com/sites/forbescoachescouncil/2017/01/27/what-having-a-self-authoring-mind-means/?sh=51a3a1953b77
The Gospel of Thomas: 

https://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/shows/religion/story/thomas.html

Howard Thurman:
https://www.bu.edu/thurman/about-us/who-is-howard-thurman/

StrengthsFinder; CliftonStrengths: https://www.forbes.com/sites/forbescoachescouncil/2017/01/27/what-having-a-self-authoring-mind-means/?sh=51a3a1953b77

Owning Your Value | Key Elements for Authenticity & Personal Power:  www.rise-leaders.com/podcast Episode 21

A Guide for Owning Your Value: https://mailchi.mp/d37649fa5f04/own-your-value
Article:  Authentic Leadership:  https://www.wgu.edu/blog/what-is-authentic-leadership2004.html#close
Rise Leaders YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKZAhRU1iLsXYwpvCECVreg
Insight Meditation App (search for body scans that work for you) https://insighttimer.com/
 
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#56 Pause and Reflect:  Q1 2022

#56 Pause and Reflect: Q1 2022

March 22, 2022

“Can you discern between resistance and fear and strategic changes in direction? …not giving up and changing direction because something is hard or scary, yet being willing to change your mind even when something you really wanted to pursue is no longer a good investment of your precious resources?”

Reflect, refresh, and recalibrate

The change in seasons reminds us that it's time to pause and reflect on what's behind and what's ahead of us. In organizational life we do quarterly reviews to assess progress and determine what we might need to stop, start and keep doing. Where do we need to step on the gas? Where should we apply brakes?

Spring (our current season in the Northern Hemisphere) is symbolic of new beginnings. Can you find this feeling of a fresh start and new growth in yourself?

Respond with Agility

In a constantly changing world, it’s not a problem to adjust our approach or our vision – it’s a strategic response. We reflect on our commitments in order to respond with agility.

In this discussion, we’re going to:

  • Pause in a deliberate way to connect with what’s important to us and our work in the world
  • Locate ourselves in a broader context, beyond our goals
  • Take the opportunity to apply discernment to our earlier planning: do our original commitments still make good strategic sense? Are we placing our efforts on the right priorities?

 
This is a worthwhile practice to do individually and with your team. You can do this activity anywhere, anytime you have a spare moment, mentally or with a journal.
 
Answer these questions quarterly:

  • Who is the person (or team) you are committed to becoming?
  • What is the impact you want to make?
  • How are you doing on your goals? What adjustments do you want to make?
  • How are your systems, processes, and practices supporting your intended impact?

 
Links & resources:

Beginning Again 2022 https://mailchi.mp/68e183fd18bf/beginningagain2022

Podcast (source of Locate Yourself) Tami Simon & Lynne Twist on Sounds True:  An Evolutionary Leap https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yV3BwmYkOCU

Article: How Regular Rhythms Unlock Powerful Growth https://www.monkhouseandcompany.com/blog/how-regular-rhythms-unlock-powerful-growth/

Origin of Easter:  https://www.abc.net.au/news/2017-04-15/the-origins-of-easter-from-pagan-roots-to-chocolate-eggs/8440134

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#51 Focus 2022: From Surviving to Thriving with 3VQ

#51 Focus 2022: From Surviving to Thriving with 3VQ

January 11, 2022

“When we focus on outcomes and take creative steps to go after that, we solve problems in service to those. It’s not that the Outcome Orientation is all goodness and light and problem free, but that we can tackle the problems that stand in the way of we really want and really care about.” – David Emerald Womeldorff

A 2022 Mindset Goal: An Outcome Orientation

As we dive into a new year, David Emerald Womeldorff’s discussion of problem mindset versus outcome mindset and the 3 Vital Questions is more relevant than ever. It’s why I’ve recapped this popular episode from 2020, especially as we prepare to tackle fresh challenges.

David discusses how all leadership begins with self-leadership, and how our mindset paves the way to a desired path. When we approach situations with a problem orientation, it drives anxious, reactive behavior and causes drama. In contrast, an outcome orientation keeps us focused on our passion: what we want to create and what’s supporting and aligning with our desired outcome.

As the author of The Power of TED and 3 Vital Questions: Transforming Workplace Drama, David makes complex topics easier to understand through his story-telling superpower.

Revisiting this conversation reminds me of the power of resilience in the face of organizational challenges and refreshes me as I plan my 2022.

Be the Victor, Not the Victim

[24:36] “There are two major components to our stepping into and developing our capability as creators. One is to create outcomes. The second is that we as Creators own our capacity to choose our response to whatever is going on in our lives."

Create and Generate

[33:32] “What actions are you taking? Are you merely reacting to the problems of the moment, or are you taking creative and generative action, including the solving of problems in service to outcomes?”

[35:03] “The three basic steps of dynamic tension are first and foremost, focus on the outcome and to be as clear as we can on the outcome, that the outcome can sometimes be clear and concrete – other times it may be more vague and directional.”
 

Resources mentioned in this episode:
3 Vital Questions website:
https://bit.ly/2Nsz927
The Power of TED: The Empowerment Dynamic:
https://bit.ly/3sM9eCE
3 Vital Questions:Transforming Workplace Drama
David Emerald
Donna Zajonc
Stephen Karpman's Drama Triangle
Bob Anderson's episode on Rise Leaders Radio
The Leadership Circle Profile
Robert Fritz:  Structural Tension
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#50 The Power of Awe, Art & Observation:  Practicing Wonder

#50 The Power of Awe, Art & Observation: Practicing Wonder

December 14, 2021

“’Do Something New’ is about having the courage to take a moment and celebrate it. And finding a way … to move beyond simply seeing and looking to deep observation, or deep listening. It’s about going further than I normally would.” – Bonnie Pitman

The power of observation: Transforming the ordinary into the extraordinary

We get stuck and can't see new possibilities. We interact with the same people, face similar situations and respond predictably. If we want to avoid the insanity of doing things the same way and expecting different results we have to change our perspective.

Pausing, being more intentional, and deepening how we see people, places and things can transform the trajectory of our relationship with them.

 

Bonnie Pitman's chronic illness and unending days in medical facilities was the catalyst for a novel approach to living, which she calls “Do Something New.”

Her experience with physicians and medical staff revealed their often transactional and shallow understanding of her as a human being. She now teaches medical students The Power of Observation and uses art as the medium.

As the former Director of the Dallas Museum of Art, it was natural that she draw from her background in art and passion for education in developing these practices. It’s about “stopping the rush” and “celebrating the beauty of things” to experience joy every day.

I’m revisiting this conversation as we wrap up the year, and I hope you’ll harness the power of Do Something New as well as her Power of Observation Framework for your own recalibration and rejuvenation. Make these frameworks a habit and you will experience more wonder in your life.

The role of awe

[39:47] “Awe may help stop us from ruminating on our problems and daily stressors. Instead, awe seems to pull us out of ourselves and make us feel immersed in our surroundings and the larger world, which may also help explain its tendency to inspire generosity and a sense of connection with others.”

Applying observation and awe to leadership

[31:00] “Look without judgment, so that it's taking the critical eye and the analysis off of it and just let yourself play around with it and be with whatever the issue is, whatever it is that you're contemplating – whether it's a piece of art or a business issue.”

[31:30] “It's another equivalent to a brainstorming session…Let's just take a specific thing that we're focusing on as a problem and go through these steps. You can move the group from this generalizing the problem, down to coming up with new solutions.”

Do Something New

Take a few minutes of an ordinary day and make it extraordinary through:

  1. Visiting new places

  2. Meeting new people

  3. Having new experiences

  4. Planing new experiences with old friends in new ways

  5. New big things & new little things

  6. Even new flavors of ice cream are ok!

  7. Go outside of work or medical experiences

  8. Starting with a new experience each day - don't carry forward from yesterday

 

Follow Bonnie Doing Something New on Instagram.

 

The Power of Observation Framework™ takes us from first look, to increasing focus, new connections and transformational insights. You may recognize these as ah-ha! moment!

Download the full Power of Observation Framework https://rise-leaders.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/Power-of-Observation_BPitman.pdf

 

Follow Bonnie Pitman on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bonniepitman/

The Dallas Museum of Art: www.dma.org

 

Engage with me on LinkedIn here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/leeannmallory/

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#49 You‘ve Defined Your Values:  Have You Operationalized Them?

#49 You‘ve Defined Your Values: Have You Operationalized Them?

November 23, 2021

Don’t tell me what you value; show me your budget, and I’ll tell you what you value.” –Joe Biden

Put your values into action

A lot of energy goes into defining an organization's Vision, Mission and Values. It's an exciting time and an inspiring exercise. Usually, steps are taken to put this Core Ideology into action but it often remains separate from the hard core center of the business. It doesn't have to be that way. MaryBeth Hyland dedicates the second half of her book, "Permission to be Human: The Conscious Leader's Guide to Creating a Values-Driven Culture" to this topic.

During our previous conversation (Episode 48), MaryBeth and I discussed wellbeing and mental health in the workplace. Today, we focus on integrating values into cultural norms and operations, top to bottom.

Put simply, MaryBeth shares how to “walk the talk.” She shows how to catapult your values into action throughout your organization – and explains the consequences of failing to do so. Operationalizing your values is the pivotal next step for seeing your values leap off the conference room posters to make a tangible impact.

Be clear about expectations concerning values when hiring

[08:09] “You need to have your values as a part of your process for hiring. Because it is not fair, it is not kind to hire somebody without clear expectations of how they're going to be showing up every day.

Your values guide your actions

[08:28] “Your vision is your ‘why’ and your mission is what your values are - your ‘how.’ If you have clearly stated values of how you're going to go about accomplishing your ‘what’ and your ‘why,’ but you don't hold anyone accountable to them, then you're basically telling people, they don't matter, and they're not real.”

Tracking alignment to your values

[16:28] “You can look at a budget, let's say, for an organization overall, and start connecting line items to values. You could say, ‘Oh, wow, 70% of our budget is skewed towards 'excellence', whereas we really need to beef up our areas of 'people first'."

[16:51] “And that's the same for our schedules – being able to color-code your schedule based on the values you're activating. When you visually look at your time, you can see, 'how much am I really investing in these values that I'm here to embody? And how can I start to balance those out?'”

[15:20] “If you really want change, and depth and width in what you're trying to create with operationalizing your values, you need to invest in them financially as well.”

Connect with MaryBeth Hyland on LinkedIn
https://www.linkedin.com/in/marybethhyland

Get support as an organization or individual at https://sparkvisionnow.com 

"Permission to Be Human: The Conscious Leader's Guide to Creating a Values-Driven Culture"
https://www.amazon.com/Permission-Be-Human-Conscious-Values-Driven-ebook/dp/B0965XWV49

Rise Leaders Radio Episode 45: 7 Elements of a Winning Culture www.rise-leaders.com/podcast

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#48 Permission to Be Human:  Caring Deeply About People  & Their Wellbeing at Work

#48 Permission to Be Human: Caring Deeply About People & Their Wellbeing at Work

November 9, 2021

“This book is a love letter to any fellow humans who have felt like they were the underdogs for deeply caring about people and their wellbeing at work.” – MaryBeth Hyland, Permission to Be Human: A Conscious Leader’s Guide to Creating a Values-Driven Culture

Wellbeing at work

Just as we go to a doctor if we break an arm, we should treat ourselves with the same level of respect when it comes to our mental, emotional, and spiritual wellbeing – even at work. While we might not think of spirituality at work, I put it in the domain of wisdom and purpose, vision or values – important guiding pillars for showing up as your best self. It all plays a role.

This is the groundwork for my conversation with MaryBeth Hyland. She’s the founder of SparkVision, a firm committed to creating environments where people thrive. Especially in the past year and a half, our mental health may have taken a hit – and it’s important to recognize it’s likely the same with those we interact with each day.

From our discussion, you’ll learn:
- What’s included in the term “wellbeing”?
- How do you approach someone if you notice they’re having difficulty with their mental health?
- How do you address the fact you were hurt by someone who's in a tough place mentally?

Invest in your relationships at work

[10:43] “So much of it has to do with your relationship … It's a short- and long-term relationship that involves a lot of investments in each other to feel like it's coming from a place of caring and wanting to help people in their wellbeing instead of maybe wanting to call them out, or stigmatize, or make them feel like something's even more wrong.”
[15:48] “The more you're willing to share of yourself, the more willing other people are to share.”

Establishing boundaries

[20:05] “There's a big misconception with boundaries that boundaries are about controlling other people. But boundaries are actually about creating an environment that’s good for you, that's going to take care of your wellbeing.”

Taking ownership for your part

[24:30] “To truly be sorry, you have to be willing to sit with what the other person experienced and hold space for that just like they did for you, when you were on the other side of it.”

 

Connect with Mary Beth Hyland on LinkedIn:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/marybethhyland/

Learn More about Spark Vision:

https://www.sparkvisionnow.com/

Work Life with Adam Grant https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/we-should-allow-sad-days-not-just-sick-days/id1346314086?i=1000530163973

Be Well Lead Well Pulse  www.bewellleadwellpulse.com

WellBeing at Work, from Gallup:

https://www.gallup.com/workplace/336935/wellbeing-at-work.aspx

 

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#47 Shaken & Stirred | Calming a Frayed Nervous System

#47 Shaken & Stirred | Calming a Frayed Nervous System

October 26, 2021

We will all grapple with trauma in some form. If you haven’t experienced it yet personally, then as a leader, mentor, friend, or loved one, you’ll be with someone who has.

Drawing from my own recent experience, I want to share what I’ve learned from an event that rattled my nervous system. We'll all get shaken by life, and whether it’s a heated argument, natural disaster, or a dog attack (like mine), it’s important to work through that experience so that unprocessed trauma doesn't get lodged in our system, only to make a surprise appearance when we least expect or want it. Not coping with trauma can have significant consequences.

I'm sharing my own response to a recent experience. I’m not a trauma therapist or coach. I took on a few practices to move past a jarring event and as of now, they seem to be working. I do give coaching clients contemplative, grounding and journalizing practices like the ones I describe in this episode. I hope it helps you like it has for me.

If you or someone you know have experience trauma, please reach out to a professional.

Here are a few of my insights:

Help often appears where you’re not looking

During the attack, I thought I was powerless and alone. I looked in one direction for help but it came from another. We all have our blind spots, assumptions and ways of seeing reality. We often need others to help us past our limitations. I was not alone.

Trust in Others Who Care About You

It takes time for the fight-or-flight chemicals to leave our bodies.  Until then we may function 'just fine'.  Yet our decision-making post trauma is compromised because our nervous system takes a while to settle.  Having someone in your corner that sees reality more clearly and who is willing be straight with you is priceless. And you have to be open to listening.

Make time to recuperate and reflect

Take the time you need to heal and process the event. It’s likely you won't be on your game, so go light on work or take a complete break in order to give yourself the space to recover. While I didn't take days completely off, I went easy enough on myself to get my energy back and clear my head. Bodywork therapies like NetworkSpinal and Polarity Therapy helped me immensely, and journaling has been incredible as well.  Breathwork, mindfulness and movement were also part of my healing.  I also spent the evenings with a good novel!  

For further exploration:
Network Spinal – search for a practitioner near you
Polarity Therapy:  https://polaritytherapy.org/
Calm breath exercise – extended exhale https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aNXKjGFUlMs&t=5s
Calm breath exercise – bubble/box breathing https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uxayUBd6T7M
Third-person journaling https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/dg/#:~:text=In%20the%20case%20of%20third,referring%20to%20ourselves%20by%20name.
Telling Your Story May Be Good for Your Health https://h-i-v.net/spotlight/mental-health-month-2021

 
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