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#41  How to Be Free

#41 How to Be Free

August 3, 2021

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms - to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”  - Viktor Frankl

Unlocking our freedom from within

When we think of independence, we often think of it as an external event, like Juneteenth or the Fourth of July. But freedom and independence, including personal freedom, is actually a process and practice that requires ongoing effort.
Internal freedom is our ability and willingness to live into our own creative potential. It's a mindset and comes from within. To achieve internal freedom, spend time reflecting on your values, motivations and authentic desires. Double-check that the dreams you're chasing are yours and not someone else’s. We unlock greater personal power when we recognize self-limiting beliefs and behaviors that inhibit our internal freedom.
The benefits are great: when we gain internal freedom, we live from a creative and empowered mindset.

 

What Internal Freedom looks like:

[07:46]“It looks like creating visions for our own life and then taking steps toward those visions. We’re honest and clear about what we want, not what someone else wants of us, or what we feel obligated to do.”
“Using discretion and intention for where we place our focus and attention…Know where you want to spend your time and attention and create boundaries and practices so that you find that sweet spot.”

How we hold ourselves captive:

[12:35] “Complying, staying small, and not rocking the boat. Staying quiet in meetings and agreeing.”
[14:47]“Not recognizing and valuing our own worth, expertise, contribution, impact - a feeling of not belonging.” For example, “’Everyone at my company has specific expertise…I run customer support so don’t have much to contribute.’”  One way this belief impacts someone is in feeling unable to say no in an attempt to prove one’s worth. Burnout and resentment follow.

For further exploration:

Journal Prompts for Freedom pdf https://mailchi.mp/rise-leaders/journal-prompts-for-freedom

Rise Leaders Radio Episode #13 with David Emerald: Three Vital Questions for Transformative Results and #33 with Jerry Magar: Putting Your Values Into Action (www.rise-leaders.com/podcast)

CliftonStrengths assessment
Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl
 
Books by David Emerald:  The Power of TED* The Empowerment Dynamic + Three Vital Questions:Transforming Workplace Drama
 
Mastering Leadership by Robert J. Anderson and William A. Adams (socialized/self-authoring, creative/reactive)
 
Reboot:  Leadership and the Art of Growing Up by Jerry Colonna
Cassandra Speaks: When Women are the Storytellers, the Human Story Changes by Elizabeth Lesser
Owning Your Own Shadow by Robert A. Johnson
Loving What Is by Byron Katie
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#40 Try the ‘blend’ : A practice to build stronger relationships and deeper trust

#40 Try the ‘blend’ : A practice to build stronger relationships and deeper trust

July 13, 2021

“When we’re blending, we felt in lockstep, we were in flow. Perhaps we even felt like the conversation was a nice dance. We felt open, connected with, 'gotten'…When we are able to blend, we have stronger relationships that are based on deeper trust.”

 

'Blend' to build stronger relationships

In a society that seems to value being right and accomplishing tasks quickly, a willingness to engage in the difficult work of connecting with what others care about is a game-changing mindset. Blending is one means of accomplishing this: an authentic willingness to be open to another person’s concerns, move with them, to hear and understand their perspective.

This week we’re looking at what blending is (and isn’t); how to sense it; and how to observe, reflect, and practice it.

What Blending Isn't:

[3:42] “When we're having an experience of not blending or not being blended with, we may say that we feel pushed into something. We might feel stiff-armed or kept at a distance. We feel like we had the rug pulled out from underneath us.”

Observation Before Action

[6:07] “The magic in all of this is in raising our self-awareness so that we can catch ourselves when we're blending well, and not so much.”

[8:38] “Observe yourself. Notice the situations where you blend well. And when you don't, I've given you clues already to look for: when you jump in to fix, advise or shut something down, or when you move into complying and pleasing.”

 

Center, Calibrate and Connect

 [10:57] “When you're actually in the blending conversation, connect to what you care about. Center yourself physically, release tension, calibrate your nervous system. Now connect with the other person and engage by asking questions and attempting to expand your own perspective.”

For further exploration:

Rise Leaders Radio Episodes focused on embodiment: #32 Speak Up Stand Up:  Chris Johnson on Becoming Fierce; #25 The Leadership Pause with Chris Johnson (www.rise-leaders.com/podcast)

Pushing Hands - An embodied exercise:  Wikipedia https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pushing_hands

"Embodied Leadership: The Somatic Approach to Developing Your Leadership" – Pete Hamill https://bookshop.org/a/16835/9780749465643

"The Leadership Dojo: Build Your Foundation as an Exemplary Leader" – Richard Strozzi-Heckler https://bookshop.org/a/16835/9781583942017

To discuss executive coaching, leadership development program design, and workshop facilitation, please visit:
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#39 Your Body’s Role in Being an Effective + Resilient Leader

#39 Your Body’s Role in Being an Effective + Resilient Leader

June 29, 2021

“Our embodiment is our extraordinary ability to put complex actions and interactions on autopilot. So that what comes next, or how to respond, becomes second nature... I'm talking about the body as a reflection of the person who lives within it.”

-Amanda Blake, Your Body is Your Brain

Embodiment, Learning and Leadership

Amanda Blake is the author of Your Body is Your Brain, a Ph.D. candidate in Leadership and Management, and an expert in experiential leadership learning and the art and science of embodiment.

Today we explore the positive impact that embodied self-awareness has on our resilience, our effectiveness in leading, and ultimately in living a more fulfilling life.

What is embodiment?

[06:55] “Embodiment is a felt sense way of knowing about ourselves about others and about the world…non-judgmental attention to what our interior state is to our sensations or movements…A way of being, a way of knowing, and a way of paying attention.”

A pathway to resilience

[18:39] “When we start to develop our embodied self-awareness, part of what happens is we get better at noticing the red flags, and stress.”
[19:57] “It's like this secret superpower where you can go, ‘I'm just going to soften my shoulders a little bit here, I'm just going to relax my jaw or feel myself sitting in my seat.’ All of a sudden, that starts to change the constellation of stress hormones in my body.”
Recognizing when you carry stress in your body is the first step to overcoming and bouncing back. This can help us return to the path we need.

Embodiment is personal and pragmatic

[24:10] “It's very unique and individual what we might need or want to do to counteract the tendencies we might have that can be totally unconscious.”
[25:55] “Prime people to think about, okay, for this meeting, this conversation, this activity, how do you need to bring yourself to it? What way of being will best serve the outcome that you're aiming for? Then how do you embody that..whatever that may be?”
Do you need to open your shoulders and lean forward to better engage? Do you need to soften anywhere to relax and appear approachable? It’s up to you to determine what’s best for the situation and what to do physically to bring your best self.

For more conversations on embodied leadership, try out Rise Leaders Radio episodes #25 & #32.

Free download mentioned in this episode: Stress to Serenity Guide:  https://embright.org/centering-challenge/

To connect with Mandy:
Website:  https://embright.org/
About Mandy: https://embright.org/mandy/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amanda-blake-892195/

Order the book through Bookshop: https://bookshop.org/a/16835/9780999368107

#38 Ecosomatics |Connect to your body to connect to your world

#38 Ecosomatics |Connect to your body to connect to your world

April 20, 2021

“When we connect to our own energy and life force, we're actually connecting to the big energy out there in the world…And this is the venue, the entry point into connecting with all the rest of life around us.” - Mark Mooney

Connect with your body, connect with the world
According to Mark Mooney, the embodied or self-actuated self includes a deep connection to all the rest of life on the planet. Achieving this requires an understanding of somatics and ecosomatics.

Somatics is a body-centered approach to learning and transformation; we learn through our body to reach our potential. Ecosomatics integrates deep ecology, which acknowledges the inherent value and interconnection of all living things. Tapping into our senses and sensations lays groundwork for both.

This week Mark explains how our bodies and our “ historical shaping” inform our strategies for navigating the world. He also explains how connecting with nature enhances our wellbeing - and how to connect with nature even when it’s not easily accessible.

Be fully in the experience of life
[15:36] “We might as well be in the experience of life as opposed to thinking of life. Joseph Campbell suggested that we're not looking for the secret of the meaning of life. He suggests that we're looking for the experience of life, which means experiencing all of our emotions fully.  Being fully aware in the moment and to the things going on around me. [Then the] experience of life just gets better.”

Our shape suggests our mood
[22:15] “That's an interesting part about shaping. You look at people’s shape, a ‘resigned shape’ is one of the things that people can see the most: kind of collapsed - looks like there's a weight around the neck…it’s part of the defense of ‘let's make myself smaller.’ I'll bring my energy and I'll condense my musculature. I'll actually bring my head down. Now I'm going to be smaller.”

Connect to your senses to become present and alive
[50:21] “Cultivate your connection to your senses. Go for a walk (and nature is probably going to give you the easiest time to do this) and spend 10 minutes strictly in one sense…so I could walk slowly and just pay attention to what I hear. What's the furthest away thing I can hear? What's the closest thing? What's high pitch, what's low and bass? And just pay attention and listen to the quality of sound.”
[54:28] “It opens a world getting connected to our senses on this level, it opens a world that we're just not usually paying any attention to.”

Resources mentioned in the episode:
Mark Mooney:
mooney23@comcast.net
ecosomatic.com
https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-mooney-6116a49/
Strozzi Institute:
https://strozziinstitute.com/
Richard Strozzi-Heckler, PhD:
https://strozziinstitute.com/about-2/#richard-strozzi-heckler
Deep Ecology + George Sessions: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Deep_ecology#:~:text=Deep%20ecology%20is%20an%20environmental,in%20accordance%20with%20such%20ideas.
Arne Naess:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arne_N%C3%A6ss

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#37 Intimacy, Self-Orientation & Fear | A Deep Dive Into Trust

#37 Intimacy, Self-Orientation & Fear | A Deep Dive Into Trust

April 6, 2021

"If we insist on being buttoned up, polished professionals, that gets us a certain distance in our business lives. But showing up as a human being and being willing to relate to our clients and our colleagues as human beings, not just as professionals, gets us 10 times further.” - Andrea Howe

Strong connections build trust
Andrea Howe kicks conventional business to the curb and transforms how people work together. Augmenting our talk with Charlie Green in episode 36, Andrea helps us take a deep dive into the foundations of trust for us to accomplish this.
 
Building trust can feel risky. It requires shedding protective mechanisms to reveal vulnerability and, as a result, make human connections. In the workplace this often spurs fear. After all, it can be a tough balancing act to appear competent and set professional boundaries while also taking opportunities to let our guard down and reveal ourselves. Fear also inhibits true connection because it magnifies self-orientation. We can’t truly be there for others if we allow our own fear to take hold and guide our interactions.  

As you’ll discover, these 3 elements are interwoven, but when they’re examined, you can see how an awareness of them helps a novel way of working and thriving unfold.

Face fear
[14:37] “Human beings, professionals, struggle with fear…[sometimes] it’s a subtle, insidious force that has us suddenly doing or saying things that maybe aren't the optimal from a trust-building standpoint. But it's pervasive, and I think it's critical for us to attend to…we’ve got to shine some light on it, normalize it, practice ways to manage it and mitigate it, and therefore be able to show up not only more powerfully in a more grounded and centered way, but also more courageously.”
[28:01] “So think about it, when we're in a fear-based place, even if it's subtle, the ability to really tune in to another human being is compromised.”

Intimacy builds a safe haven
[31:16] “In looking at the data we've collected over more than a decade now, those with the highest intimacy scores tend to also have the highest trustworthiness scores…
“If there isn't safety in a relationship…if you're my client, what's the likelihood that you're going to disclose to me or even be willing to explore with me the real issues? What really needs to be attended to? What you're really concerned about are what your fears are.”

Generosity: The antidote to fear
[39:51] “Be willing to give stuff away. Give away ideas. Give things away. And that doesn't mean not valuing your services [or] charging appropriately for your services. But one of the best ways for people to have an experience of who you are is to get a little taste of it. So why not be willing to invest, give them a little demo…a way of getting to know you, who you are, and what you're capable of.”

Resources:
Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrea-howe-she-her-22a105/
Trusted Advisor Associates: https://trustedadvisor.com/
The Get Real Project: https://thegetrealproject.com/
(Upcoming Webinar): https://trustedadvisor.com/webinars
The Trusted Advisor Fieldbook: https://trustedadvisor.com/books/the-trusted-advisor-fieldbook

Episode 36: A Way of Being for Sustainable Sales Success:  Focus on Trust, Courage, Intimacy: https://rise-leaders.com/podcast/?ppplayer=2166354b3000fc311ad1272907939efb&ppepisode=abad7dfecb82a6462b25f83e0101fc4d
Trust Equation Guide: https://rise-leaders.com/trust-equation-guide-2/ 

 

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#36:  A Way of Being for Sustainable Sales Success:  Focus on Trust, Courage, Intimacy

#36: A Way of Being for Sustainable Sales Success: Focus on Trust, Courage, Intimacy

March 23, 2021

The goal of most sales books and training programs is to get more sales. The goal of trust-based selling is to help the customer…The paradox is that if you abandon attachment to the sale as the goal and instead do the sale as a fortunate byproduct, you'll actually do better.” - Charles H. Green

The trust equation
How do we measure trust? In sales and marketing, the fundamentals of interpersonal trust haven’t changed despite the digitization of the past 20 years. The mediums may change, but ultimately, it’s about people connecting with other people. While that sounds simple, in practice it can be complicated. That’s why Founder of Trusted Advisor Associates Charlie Green has distilled the elements of trust into one equation.

Charlie delves into how building trust is a boon to interpersonal and even organizational success. In our conversation, he explains and gives examples of each element of trust, the trends he sees in his work with business leaders, and how showing up for relationships authentically better serves others in the end.

Myths of trust:
[15:56] “ [that] trust takes a long time to build and a moment to destroy. Time is not the issue. Courage is the issue. It's the ability to react appropriately to the other person in the moment.”

Trust helps you serve better:
[18:07] “The problem is never what the client said it was in the first meeting. And that's not the fault of the client, they're trying to do their best job of defining what the problem is and have all their own unconscious biases…but the magic that happens between seller and buyer, if it's done right, results in a higher-level, more complex, more accurate shared problem definition. And that's a very valuable part of the consultative relationship, coming to a shared definition of what really is the problem.

Position yourself to earn trust:
[27:45] “We've all had conversations with people who are checked out, and you can feel, 'they're not paying attention to me', 'they don't care what my answer is to this'…and we don't trust those people. On the other hand, if somebody does us the grace, the dignity, the honor, the respect of actually paying attention, we’re drawn to those people. And we reciprocate and listen to what they have to say. It's a matter of respect, in a way.”

Resources mentioned in this Episode:
https://trustedadvisor.com/ videos, articles, etc.

The Trusted Advisor 20th Anniversary Edition

https://trustedadvisor.com/books
 
https://www.edelman.com/trust/2020-trust-barometer

www.rise-leaders.com/podcast Episode 17: Building Trust at Work:  The Trust Equation

https://rise-leaders.com/trust-equation-guide-2/ Trust Equation Guide

https://www.linkedin.com/in/charleshgreen/

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#35 Solving the Virtual Distance Crisis:  It’s All About Connection

#35 Solving the Virtual Distance Crisis: It’s All About Connection

March 9, 2021

“Think of virtual distance as an unconscious sense of social and emotional detachment that starts to grow. As we use more and more computer-mediated communications, it shows up as changes in our behavior because we don't feel as close to people, but we may not realize that it's happening to us.” - Dr. Karen Lojeski

Perhaps you can relate to the scenario where we’re answering emails and get stuck in the “mind fog.” You might be distracted by other tasks that await you, or you’re wondering whether you’ve interpreted the sender’s email tone correctly.

Over time situations as these reveal that there’s so much lost in virtual interaction, a lack of focus and context that’s valuable in building trust.

This fog between people that results from our increasingly virtual world is what Dr. Karen Lojeski calls virtual distance. It’s the loss of context around interactions that we naturally get from being in the same physical environment, helping us understand what someone means and how they feel. Ultimately it distills human connection, which is critical to our wellbeing as a species. Karen’s computer science background led her to seek out quantifiable data around this phenomenon and how awareness of it can promote a human-first approach in the workplace.

The Impact of Virtual Distance is Measurable

“What we know through the math is high virtual distance is the statistical equivalent of not only low trust, but distrust… But when you manage virtual distance and bring it down, which we can predictably do with specific techniques and prescriptions, trust turns into good trust, and it also builds, and you can get very strong trust.”

“We measure 10 outcomes – things like job satisfaction, employee engagement, etc., and innovation and revenue increases or decreases. So we do measure very tangible outcomes. And when virtual distance is high, it usually has a negative relationship. So if it's high, then you get lower trust and distrust, lower job satisfaction, lower employee engagement.”

The Importance of Human Connection

“The bottom line is, the worst thing you can do to a human being is put them into an isolated situation. It's just, it's before food before water, we need each other. And then if we're with someone else, it's easier for us to find food by water, and to be okay and to feel okay.”

Business Success Requires an Open Heart

“We've just developed bad habits and forgot that it's not just the number on a balance sheet that counts, it really is the people… The first thing you have to address is the fact that it's really there, that people are really in need of leadership and some help on a human level. And the best way to control your future business trajectory is to open up your heart.”

Lean In: A Need for Connection

'We are all sharing this context. So that's one thing leaders need to understand is to lean into the crisis, and talk about it and discuss it and make room for that discussion in business so that people can share whatever it is they can over online means.'

'People right now are psychologically retreating from other people, because we have to stay safe and healthy. But that habit is going to take a while to break... leaders, we should be planning for it. We should be thinking through this and saying, we're actually going to have to help people come out of their shell, and feel more comfortable being exposed to other people, again, as long as it's scientifically safe and healthy to do that. But we may actually see new types of training, ... we're adapting to stay alive and to stay safe. But we're sort of maladaptive to human social contact.'

Resources in this episode:
https://virtualdistance.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/drkarenlojeskivirtualdistance/
https://bookshop.org/a/16835/9781119608592*
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#34 A Platform for Placemaking at Work: More Than A Cool Piece of Tech

#34 A Platform for Placemaking at Work: More Than A Cool Piece of Tech

February 22, 2021

“We have virtual real estate that makes you look and feel and act and behave as if you were in a real office. So it's not virtual reality, it's reality…the way my brain reacts and creates by changing the environment I’m in…my persona changes [while being] connected to colleagues around the world.” - Toni Portmann

Using Technology to Reduce Isolation and Build Trust
The corporate landscape in a global and post-COVID-19 world has presented many questions. One of the most important has been: How can we replicate company culture when almost no one is co-located? Though being able to work from home during a pandemic has helped boost productivity and open the talent pool beyond traditionally tight geographical lines, the issues of building culture has seen a less obvious solution.

Toni Portmann addresses this in the ingenuity that is Walkabout Workplace, a virtual reality platform encouraging positive work cultures based on human connections and place-making. It transports mind and body into the workplace through virtual real estate, simulating real-life – running into people in the hallway and having off-the-cuff banter, joining different rooms to chime in to conversations, and connecting to people in ways other than the constant Zoom meeting that reigns today.

In a world that’s moving away from commutes and increasingly going green, Toni explains how Walkabout Workplace addresses known challenges and offers additional benefits to the workplace and even to our communities.

[] “we’re not feeling connected to the world of work, or the world of community or the world of colleagues. In Walkabout, you can literally walk down the hall and drop in and have that five-minute conversation, get a question answered, say hi, have a cup of coffee, and literally feel like you're building a team.”

[18:40] "It brings us to a place ... I can log on in the morning and I and I see my colleagues... And, and who's like having stand ups...There are these times when people have either brainstorming meetings, or they're having stand ups. And that's one of the things that we're missing out on right now... unless you're invited to that conversation via a calendar, you don't even know what's going on. But from what I can tell... what I what I think will happen with Walkabout is that I can see where people are gathered. And I can just ask to join and that's part of the spontaneity of it... or someone that's in a brainstorming meeting might say, I think LeeAnn has the answer to this, let's see if we can pull her in here real quick. And they can just pull me in and release me instead of having to invite me to a meeting for 30 minutes to two hours or however that that's going to be. So for me, those are some of my favorite attributes is that it really does give a way for that spontaneity to happen."

[19:15] “It's also wicked secure. …we’ve got to be really careful of privacy of protection. We do unbelievable encryption inside the video. We also emit unbelievable encryption inside the chat channels, so that when we're having this conversation, we're encrypting within the video channel itself.”

[30:08] “Talent acquisition will change dramatically with this new accessibility…I'm no longer relegated to what my zip code is, what school I went to, or what transit I can get on. So now I can be a candidate for hire, or I can be a productive contributing employee.”

Connect to Toni Portmann:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/toni-portmann-53b454/

Walkabout Workplace
https://walkaboutworkplace.com/

The Power of Virtual Distance:
https://bookshop.org/a/16835/9781119608592

Hooked on Code:
https://hookedoncode.com/about

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#33 Putting Your Values Into Action | Jerry Magar

#33 Putting Your Values Into Action | Jerry Magar

February 9, 2021

“What values can do both for individuals and organizations is provide a sense of stability, a sense of continuity, and to provide something to cling to that is timeless and changeless in a world where everything seems to be changing.” - Jerry Magar

 

It’s the beginning of a new year, and you’re likely setting goals and taking inventory in many areas of your life. As you navigate a new year full of new potentially challenging decisions, your values can act as your compass, providing a north star.

 

There are many benefits to animating your values in daily life. Keeping them top of mind helps align your actions with your values. This sense of living authentically results in an inner peace - and walking your talk will resonate with others. In other words, your consistency and authenticity breeds trust with others.

 

Jerry shares exercises that help others identify their values as well as how to live them through actions each day.

 

To Your Own Values Be True

[13:03] “About the typical approach that’s used … what happens sometimes with circling [from a list of values] is that we end up circling things that look alluring or look like we should circle them. And then we end up lugging this value around, ultimately judging ourselves for not living up to it or not activating in a way that we thought was appropriate.”

 

Rather than choosing values from a list, reveal them from your own lived experiences.

 

Look Through the Lens of Your Values

[24:53] “I still use this practice. On a weekly basis, I sit down, and I look at the week ahead. And I think about, not just the intellectual organization of what's going on, but I look at it through the lens of my values. And I asked the question, how, how are you going to activate these values next week?”

 

Pledge to find opportunities to incorporate your values in your life and work. Let them guide you day-to-day.

 

Use Your Values as Fuel

[39:52] “It goes back to that idea of a value only matters if it is turned into action at T minus zero, the moment of impact, right? That if that doesn't turn into behavior, or turn into a decision or turn into action, it's meaningless…I see people speak to their faith. I am in no way suggesting that that shouldn't be a value. The problem is when we leave it at faith. Well, what does that really mean? And what does that look like when you're applying that value?”

 

Values have the potential to shape our actions and create meaningful impact.

 

Resources mentioned in this episode:

https://www.billgeorge.org/true-north/

https://www.amazon.com/Discover-Your-True-North-Fieldbook/dp/111910355X

 

Connect with Jerry Magar:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/jerrymagar/

https://jerrymagar.com/

#32. Speak Up, Stand Up | Dr. Chris Johnson on Becoming Fierce

#32. Speak Up, Stand Up | Dr. Chris Johnson on Becoming Fierce

December 22, 2020

Can your voice be heard?  Is your value being recognized?

Dr. Chris Johnson has joined me again in this episode to discuss a foundational leadership capability:  the ability to speak up about the value we personally bring to our work.  Our conviction is contagious and compelling, inspiring others to trust and believe in us as well.

 

You need to be able to take a stand. Extend your voice. Be pointedly focused on what you offer and the vision that you have, in order to impact the people that you say you want to impact.” - Dr. Chris Johnson

Confidence and the mind-body connection

Dr. Chris Johnson has joined me again in this episode to discuss a foundational leadership capability:  the ability to speak up about the value we personally bring to our work.  Our conviction is contagious and compelling, inspiring others to trust and believe in us as well.

Earlier, in episode #21, I reviewed the importance of recognizing and owning the value we bring to our work. This value will remain hidden if we're not able to confidently give voice to it.  And the way we carry ourselves is inextricably linked to it all. Chris draws from her years of embodied leadership and martial arts practice to create a commanding presence while also staying calm and centered. She shares her insights on how to expand your presence and self-awareness to ultimately project your inner strength and achieve your goals.

The tangible impact:  missed opportunities

[1:30] “The challenge about speaking up shows up in multiple ways…The most common are not sharing good ideas or opinions during meetings, not being able to promote themselves and their team. In avoiding conflict, staying silent or small leads to being undervalued and overlooked, and ultimately, to a lack of fulfillment, and possibly frustration.”

[32:44] “I'd get pulled in to take on leadership roles, and yet never fully owned them. And that was because I didn't know if I knew enough, I didn't want to hurt anybody's feelings. I didn't want anybody else to feel bad if I happen to do something really well. And all of that was a story that I told myself, and then it took residence in my body. I was very narrow, and small, my energy was very constrained.”

Centering in our body, our vision, and in action

[23:00] ] “We can either close in and hunker down…Or we can choose to learn a very simple skill and practice of centering. And by that, we mean centering in the body, relaxed…and then centering in something bigger than us, even if we don't know what that is. And lastly, centering in an action that we can then take. And once we can learn that simple practice (because you have to practice it). Pretty soon that practice starts to reshape us…

“What matters is that we’re intentional. It’s based on what we care about, and that we’re consistently in deliberate practice.”

 

[29:00] “I like to say it's tolerating the discomfort at the edges because it's at the edges that literally, our neurobiology gets rewired. Hang out there in the discomfort for at least a little bit longer. Every time we do it, we're growing new pathways that allow us to expand our capacity.”

Speaking about our accomplishments or sharing our thoughts in a meeting may bring physical sensations. We have to practice tolerating this discomfort though it feels unnatural. With time we grow accustomed to it.

 

Resources mentioned in this episode:

The Power of Pause in the Mindful Leader magazine:

https://bit.ly/3ixw9wV

Episode 21: Owning Your Value | Key Elements for Authenticity and Personal Power:

https://bit.ly/3sGO0pT

A Guide to Owning Your Value:

https://bit.ly/3sJajLn

To connect to Dr. Chris Johnson please follow:

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Dr. Chris on Resilience: https://bit.ly/3sOiiXs

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